When is enough enough? When do you put your foot down on bad behavior in your relationships (romantic or not)? Hard questions to answer since things tend to vary depending on the person. Some people would tuck and run at the first sign of trouble, those are not the people im talking to. If your first reaction to a problem this particular post is not for you. However if you’re the person who sticks it out because you can “change him” and then you don’t know when or if its right to leave.
Rule number one: If her doesn’t respect you, repeatedly, then its time to go.
A tiger will never change its stripes, so a man who treats you poorly will never stop once he has started. If he makes you feel stupid or worse calls you stupid, then he is not worth keeping around. If he disrespects your beliefs or morals then Whoa e has to go! When a guy is truly worth your time he will not do those things. He will parise your mind even when you say stupid things, he will support your belivefs (notice I didn’t say he had to agree with them, just be supportive) and he will not talk down to you or insult you by making it seem as if ou are inferior.
**Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission ~ Eleanor Roosevelt. ** Don’t give him permission.
Rule Number Two: A man will treat you the way he treats his mother (or mother figure)
It’s a proven fact (and I say its proven cause Ive seen it come true more than once in my own relationships) your man will treat you exactly the way he treats his mother. Fact: I dated a man who totally ignored his mother, cussed at her when he was ignoring her and made her wait on him hand and foot. He started treating me the same way after a month. Its something my mother has always said and it has always proven to be true.
Rule Number Three: If all of his ex’s are “crazy bitches” RUN!!!!
Not all of his ex’s can possilbly be all crazy bitches or cheating whores. No man is that unlucky, yeah im sure its possible a few of them might have been but not ALL. So the moment he say “no I mean it.. Ive never had a good girlfriend they are all like that” RUN, there is a reason they are ALL like that and chances are better that he is either a douche or a Psycho, than he has dated only whores and bitches.
Rule Number Four: Chicks over Dicks.
If all of your girlfriends hate him (this is even more important when they all hate him for proven reasons) then GTF away from him. if he has managed to piss off everyone that you love than its just wise to tell him to hit the road, not only will staying with him piss off your friends but it will also make fun things like group dates or group outings uncomfortable when all of your friends try to stab him in the neck during dinner.
Rule Number Five: Listen to your heart.
The most important rule i always follow is, listen to your heart. If you know, deep down that he is not the one, then don’t waste your time. Leave him before you hurt him by prolonging the break up. (yes guys have feelings too)
Rule Number Six: If he hits you… Take him grit bowling.
Last rule I swear and steal it from Madea. If he has the nerve to hurt you, by hitting you, pushing you,, shoving you, burning you with a cigarette, throwing you down the stairs, anything at all that is similar to that. Take a boiling hot pot of grits and pour it over his head just before beating him with the hot pot. (NO I seriously don’t advise violence, mainly cause most guys like this are not worth going to jail over. Just GTFO of the relationship)